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Anonymous asked: white people should never feel comfortable saying the n-word, even when singing along to a song…if you’re so comfortable with it that you can just belt it out while going about your daily business, you are doing “awareness” wrong.

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i agree with this. but i also belive that african americans should stop using the word as well if they want the
word to be buried

I think LadyA summed this up very well, but if I may add a comment to the person who wants to decide who should say what words…please stop telling POC what to do. Seriously. Anyone who tries to dictate what Black people SHOULD do obviously does not have a good enough grip on just how utterly dehumanized us whities tried to make Black people. (That’s a horribly formed sentence. Apologies.) It’s none of your goddamn business if any Black person decides to use the word-I-shall-not-say. It really doesn’t affect you in any way, and if you think it does, then you need to pull your head out of White World and come back into reality. Positive change doesn’t happen with a bunch of white people telling people of other races what to do. Shut the fuck up and let someone else talk for once.
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Ms. Blaspheming Bitch: EPIC SELF CARE POST →
Self care according to the senses:
Scent. Burn scented candles or incense. Pick some fresh flowers or herbs for your home (basil = heaven). Fry onions or garlic if it’s your thing (it’s definitely mine). If you can afford to, buy some essential oils that make you feel…
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But most of all, stop thinking that what people so loathingly refer to as the “friendzone” is some sort of purgatory women put “nice guys” into. My friendship is not a crappy consolation prize that you’re left with if I deny you a sexual relationship– and my body is not your reward for good behavior.
–Taylor Callobre, The “Good Guy” Myth
This is pretty much perfect in every way.
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–Men who want to flirt with women have to realize: Women live in a state of continual vigilance about sexual safety. It’s like having a mild case of hay fever that never goes away. It’s not debilitating. You’re not weak. You’re not afraid. You just suck it up and get on with your life. It’s nothing that’s going to stop you from making discoveries, or climbing mountains, or falling in love. Sometimes you can almost forget about it. It doesn’t mean it’s not there, subtly sucking your energy. You learn to avoid situations that make it worse and seek out conditions that make it better.
If a female stranger is wary around you, it is not because she suspects you are a rapist, or that all men are rapists. It’s because a general level of circumspection is what vigilance requires. Don’t take it personally.
If this frustrates you, try to remember that women are blamed for lapsed vigilance. If a woman does get raped, everyone rushes to see where she let her guard down. Was she drinking? Was she alone? Was she wearing a short skirt? Did she go to a strange man’s room for coffee at 4am?
A woman must be seen to be vigilant as well as be vigilant. If she is deemed insufficiently vigilant, she will be at least partly blamed for any sexual violence that befalls her. If she’s regarded as downright reckless, that “evidence” can be used to completely exonerate her rapist. If it comes down to a he said/she said dispute over whether sex was consensual, as so many rape cases do, the dispute becomes a referendum on whether the woman seems like the sort of reckless person who would have sex with a stranger.
If a woman does go back to a strange man’s hotel room at 4am, even if she only wants a coffee and conversation, she’s more or less given him the power to rape her. No jury is going to believe she went up there for anything but sex. So, don’t be surprised if a stranger reacts badly to that suggestion.
Attention, Space Cadets: Do Not Proposition Women in the Elevator
I wish I didn’t need to reblog stuff like this. I wish people *got it*. But judging from the ridiculous response to these posts, stuff like this clearly still needs to be repeated.
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This actually made me cry. Ugh.
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Will always reblog
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Little Red: I hope the giant steps on them all.
Baker's Wife: You shouldn't say that.
Witch: You were thinking the same thing.
Little Red: Well this is terrible! We just watched three people die!
Witch: Since when are you so squeamish? How many wolves have you carved up?
Little Red: A wolf's not the same!
Witch: Ask a wolf's mother.
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Glamour Magazine Body Size Stereotypes Survey:
What the Glamour Magazine poll shows about the assumptions women hold
Heavy women are pegged as…
“lazy” 11 times as often as thin women; “sloppy” nine times; “undisciplined” seven times; “slow” six times as often.
While thin women are seen as…
“conceited” or “superficial” about eight times as often as heavy women; “vain” or “self-centered” four times as often; and “bitchy,” “mean,” or “controlling” more than twice as often.
Even the “good” labels are unfair.
An overweight woman may be five times as likely to be perceived as “giving” as a skinny one. “But it just fits into the stereotype that thin women are not that way,” explains Ann Kearney-Cooke, Ph.D. “It’s still putting women in a box based on their body size.”
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This is so interesting… and really sad. The fact that heavy women ALSO judge heavy women and thin women judge other thin women is so disheartening.
Hopefully places like Stop Hating Your Body can help change this even a little bit at a time…
(click on the image for the entire article, it is worth the read!)
It’s very interesting that the article is about stereotypes, and yet both the women shown here, while their body sizes are different, are both white, blonde, and what the media would like to push as being ideally ‘beautiful’.
That being said, however, the article does make a good point. People are far too eager to place people in a box strictly on what the shape of their body, and it’s not okay. The only way to change is to question what you’re made to think, and why.
ugh. also: sticky note to myself to work on planned photo project. ok.
bolded above comment for absolute truthness
but this is super valid otherwise
I really love this image overall, though I just had another reminder (I can’t think of another word that fits better) of my White Privilege. I didn’t even notice that both of these women were white and blonde until I read the caption. I’ve still got to work on being more aware.
That being said, I’m impressed that that large woman actually has some belly on her. I just completed a project comparing the visual schemes of the Dove Beauty campaign that featured “real women,” and the Strong4Life campaign. The “real women” shown in the Dove campaign all had these nice, flat stomachs. So thank you for that, Glamour, for daring to show at least a couple of rolls on this gorgeous woman.
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It took me a few episodes to decide that GCB really is worthy to become my trash-tv successor to Deperate Housewives, but any doubt I had was wiped away when Kristin Chenoweth and Miriam Shor engaged in this battle duet version of “This Little Light Of Mine” in an episode revolving around putting on a church musical. Later in the episode, we got a scene involving a hunky Lazarus being raised from the dead to sing Barry Manilow’s “Miracle” and my love for the show was cemented.
This looks like it could have been a battle between Carol Burnett and Madeline Kahn.
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Since Saturday, I’ve eaten a bagel, five sugar snap peas, two bites of cornbread and five crackers.
